Should You Really Attend Every Wedding You’re Invited To? Here’s What to Consider

Indian weddings are a cultural spectacle—colourful, loud, emotional, and everywhere. From big fat destination shaadis to low-key hometown ceremonies, it often feels like someone’s getting married every other weekend. And the pressure to attend? Very real. But here’s the question: Do you actually need to go to every wedding you’re invited to?

Let’s break down what this means in the Indian context, especially for those juggling work, finances, and mental space in Tier 2 cities.

The Social Obligation Dilemma

For many, skipping a wedding feels like an offence. There’s this unsaid rule—if someone invited you, you must show up. Especially if they came to yours or your cousin’s or even your bua’s neighbour’s.

But here’s the truth: attending out of guilt or fear of judgement can leave you drained, financially tight, or mentally overcommitted. The “log kya kahenge” mindset shouldn’t dictate how you spend your weekends or savings.

Financial and Time Pressures Are Real

Travel, clothes, gifts, and accommodations add up fast. Even attending a local wedding can cost a few thousand rupees. Multiply that by five or ten in a season, and it’s a serious dent in your budget.

For salaried employees, freelancers, or students in Tier 2 cities, this isn’t a small concern. Taking leave, affording outfits, or travelling outstation isn’t always easy—or worth the stress.

Relationships Should Matter More Than Rituals

Not every invitation is about a deep bond. Sometimes you’re called out of courtesy or family formality. Ask yourself: Will my absence genuinely hurt them? Do I even know the bride or groom well?

If it’s someone you truly care about, go. But if it’s just another extended circle event where you’ll barely be noticed, skipping it doesn’t make you a bad person.

Mental Space and Burnout Are Valid Reasons

Constantly being on the move for weddings—especially back-to-back—can take a toll. The crowd, noise, social pressure, and travel can wear you out. If your instinct is saying “I need a break,” listen to it.

Choosing your peace over another plate of biryani is not selfish—it’s self-aware.

Conclusion

Weddings are joyful, yes. But they shouldn’t become obligations that affect your health, wallet, or time. It’s okay to say no sometimes. Being selective doesn’t make you rude or disrespectful. It just means you’re prioritising what actually matters—to you.